Partnership in everything in the home is the key to a happy home.

I once saw a very thoughtful and captivating post on twitter. The words though short meant so much to me as I thought about it over and over again while I wondered what was going through the mind of the writer when he wrote it. He said and I quote
              " Years ago, I decided that besides her carrying our babies in her womb and
                breastfeeding them, no particular chore should be tagged with my wife's name.
                Not an easy decision though but I eventually adapted.
                So@ home, we practice partnership not slavery.
                This has been working for us".
This is coming from a man that understand the value of his wife and someone who is ready to maintain a happy home at all cost.
As I read this post, it brought to mind the story of a man who grew up in a home where his mother was worse than a slave. His mother was a working class just like his father but she did every chore in the home. His father never assisted even when his mother summoned courage to call out for help from him. He was a hard and an African man to the core.
His father was also well known in that state and loved too. But he neither paid attention to the needs of his dear wife and that of his home. His children watched their mother wallow in pains and loneliness but they were too young to help her.
His mother had no time what so ever to take care of herself or to rest. She got back from work each day to start domestic work. Because her husband didn't like stored food, she had to cook fresh meal everyday. She sure needed assistance but she didn't know how to get it.
This was not the days of washing machine, blender, vacuum cleaners, etc. Everything was done manually. Her colleagues at the office complained of her being very unkept, always shabbily dressed, looked stressed out, excellent at her job but lacked concentration. But she was helpless.
On her way to the office one monday morning, she collapsed and she was helped to the hospital close by by passersby.
It was discovered that she didn't just collapse but that her blood pressure was high and the Doctors were afraid that it might lead to stroke. They quickly contacted her husband and he came as soon as possible.
The Doctors asked a lot of questions and it was discovered that this woman was seriously stressed and she was also depressed. And the question the Doctors asked was how he didn't notice all the while?
They were able to stabilize her but she couldn't move neither could she speak.
After months in the hospital, she was discharged but she couldn't walk. This made her bedridden. Her husband felt so guilty about all she had gone through secretly. He also found out that she also attempted to take her own life at some point. She was accused of stealing a huge sum of money in her office, she was the chief accountant of her company. She didn't know how to relate it to her husband at that time.
Eventually, she was vindicated but other issues in her home still lingered and even grew worse that it lead to her illness.
MORAL LESSONS :    If only he was more sensitive to the needs of his wife and cared about what was going on in her life.
If only he understood that helping out with little chores won't make him less a man.
If only he knew that it would avert the complication in his wife's health.
Regrets couldn't make things better. He had to face reality and stand by his wife at this time.
This is why I call the man who posted that tweet a very wise man. He knows that a happy wife makes a happy home. Such wife will do anything in turn to make her husband happy.
What does it take to help a wife around the house when the need arises? She might not ask but use your initiative or ask her or sit with her in the kitchen and gist about the day. This could mean a lot to her.
This is a big lesson to the unmarried too. Not just for the men but for the women too. Be a part of your husband's life, pray for him and let him talk about what bothers him. Be his gist partner, lessen the burden on his shoulder. A man goes through a lot and only a sensitive woman can detect it. A wise woman doesn't only take care of her man's body but his head and emotions too.