DIARY OF THE NEWLY WED

And the day finally came true. oh! that day she dreamt so much about. She laid on her bed all through the night but nervousness, excitement and overwhelming joy totally took sleep far from her eyes. Staring continuously at her white ball gown and sparkling white shoes carefully hung in the wardrobe just kept her wondering how amazing it would be walking down the aisle to her prince charming. He was all she wanted in a man, so gentle, kind, godly, romantic, thoughtful and more. Curly had told everyone who cared to hear that she'll be getting married and that all was set for the day. 

Yes I do! yes I do! they both echoed with wide smiles and joy beaming on their faces. Everything was set just as they had desired it to be. The party, the dance and the celebration ended and they were left alone to face life,the married life! 

The first night was simply amazing. Oh! she was finally bound to the love of her life and she felt so lucky to have such a handsome Mr. perfect by her side forever.  The honeymoon and vacation was soon over and there she was in her own home to build and manage the domestic affairs/responsibility that comes with being a wife and a woman.  Just like it was during her honeymoon, she slept till her alarm went off with the thought that she would have breakfast in bed as usual. She went to the sitting room and there he was on the dinning table waiting for his breakfast so that he can go to work. Astonished and disappointed, she ran back to the bedroom thinking to herself,''I thought he would make food for us". Reality done on her that the dating, courting, petting and butterfly period was over and it was time to stand up to her responsibility to care for her husband. Jesse went to fetch her and asked ''Darling, what's the matter? are you ok? no breakfast for us this morning? I'm really running late for work you know'' he said in a calm and loving manner. Curly stared at him and said nothing. Jesse was running very late so he took his car keys and left. 

Dear ladies, all we see in movies are mostly fictions. yes! it is very possible to have a happy ever after marriage but you have duties and responsibilities to undertake as a wife. A sweet and successful marriage takes real hard work. You may face a lot of challenges as a newly wed but employ wisdom and understanding to guide you through. A Perfect couple comes with time and experience. Be sure to be well equip with tools that will help your marriage. Help yourselves and make life as easy for each other the best way you can. 

I'm an advocate of men/husband helping out in the home especially in domestic chores. Your wife is not your lawfully or legally wedded slave or house help. Don't let her drown in domestic chores, you could have an unhappy and always tired wife. Make things easy for her. Being a wife and mother is enormous and could be crazy at times especially when you start bearing children so it would be so kind of husbands to step in and help without her asking. However, I'm not an advocate of wives being lazy and careless especially when the man is very kind enough to always help. Don't make it a habit to enslave your husband especially when he's gentle and always ready to help. Don't sit back always while he undertakes almost every duty you should be doing. The man goes through a lot during the day coupled with the fact that he bears the bulk of burden of the entire family. As a wife, be considerate and hardworking. Be prudent as a wife, go about your domestic duties the best way you can. Trust me, you won't break. Ask for his help sometimes but never make it a habit. Be careful not to play down on his ego and make him feel weak. Men are not as strong emotionally and psychologically as women. THE AVERAGE AFRICAN WOMAN IS STRONG AND A PERFECT WIFE.