D-TRACTS

Who taught the woman how to be a mother with all the challenges that comes with it? She's given out in marriage without a glimpse into what her new home will be Who taught the woman the conception and all it takes to womb a child? Who taught a mother how to lessen her emotional burdens while attending to the heavy demands of motherhood? Who taught a woman to love so dearly a child not yet seen and speaking to her unborn child as though the baby was born? Who taught her how to manage contractions and how to labour, birthing her child safely? Who taught her how to still perform her duties as a wife while nursing her young? Who taught her how to stay awake all night, cuddling her baby to sleep? Who taught her how to observe and to distinguish her baby's cry coupled with the ability to attend to the baby's needs accordingly? Who taught her how to draw strength from the joy of child even when pains lingers? Who taught a mother how to understand her baby's language when ...

You’ve had moments when you weep endlessly and sort for answers about your existence. Doubts flooded your weary soul, the outcome of crisis that never ceased in the home of your birth. You have tried on your own to figure out the uncertainties of your future and reasons why you act the way you do. But it was all a fruitless adventure. Lost in thoughts of why you act the way you do, you embarked on a journey of self-discovery, researching and consulting books but your life was never written in those. Living in a world surrounded by precepts and models, you had to conform and strictly adhere to them line upon line, back to back a road you knew not the end. You learnt trust on an empty slate, in a dark room and on a lonely high way caged in a unique world of your own. But deep down, you knew you were loved for whom you are by your potter who was letting no stone unturned in fashioning you to that perfect picture his mind's eye has seen. It seemed like a...

In life's journey, various obstacles are encountered but what makes an individual victorious is the response given to such obstacle. It is either man gives up and gets bitter (depression) or takes up the challenge and get better (accomplishment). Many people live in bitterness not because they are unfortunate but because they capitalize on complaints without making efforts to find solutions or courage to step out of their comfort zone. Not satisfied with the present state, they result to self pity. This period is sometimes mistaken to be the waiting period but that's not true. Yes, there is a waiting period for every man but that's not the period for self comparison. It is a period of getting better through prayers and God's word which builds trust and lasting peace as we end the waiting phase. Micah 7:7 says; "Therefore I will look unto the lord, I will wait for the God of my salvation, my God will hear me" . Again, hear this, "Rejoice not...

Who is your mentor? Who do you look up to? What level of mantleship do you crave for? Is it possible to long for sonship tie from a different breed i.e. a dog roaring like a lion? Of what appropriate   guidance   can a footballer mentor be to a wrestler? Are you an accountant and your mentor is a surgeon? To be in this category is to have a mentor without a mantleship. Our youths presently engage in a path that the obvious outcome would be ineffective and unproductive. No doubt, some of us have mentors, we go as far as follow our mentor hook, line and sinker yet we notice that what has produced for them cannot produce for   us. This happens not because   there can't be a replication in us but because we chose the wrong mentors, we chase after those not heading to our own desired destination and once the foundation is faulty, alot of things will certainly not just be right. This is exactly where Gehazi missed it. Rather than crave for Elisha's mantleship, he had a...

Lets talk about waywardness. A lot of people define it as being out of control or an after effect of not being properly brought up. But lets view it this way. We would establish waywardness is going astray from the normal acceptable norm. It could also be seen as an awkward way of behavior, yes!! Its actually a behavior. Other definitions would be accepted with facts. Now, it would be very unfair to tag a person wayward leaving out the causes or persons or factors that could be responsible for such behavior. In recent times, its being observed that the degree or rate of   moral degradation is rather alarming and no one seem to claim responsibility for it. Its really sad!! Knowing that the first step to correction is taking responsibility, admitting and then correction. Its so easy for the old folks to put a tag of 'waywardness' on any child or person with unacceptable behavior. But my question is what's the genesis or cause of waywardness?? H...

Attachment they say is a result of closeness and deliberate physical attraction. Some people get attached to things or people based on fondness or extreme likeness for such consequently leading to emotional attachments. As it relates to family, attachment comes when attention is given to quality time and attention to details about another. It is also by sex ie male to female/female to male which I call the natural factor. If a survey or censor should be taken on the level of attachment between colleagues, students, children, business partners and the likes, we would discover that the highest level of attachment is that which exists between the opposite sexes. No wonder opposite sex find it very easy to get attached to each other while a majority repel same sex relationship. In a family, it is easier for a father and a daughter to bond effortlessly than father and son. Same goes for the mother. From my point of view its rather a good thing cause correction or re...

It's truly amazing how members of a family quickly bound while some others grow apart . it's all a function of precepts and how parents have made it a necessity for members of their immediate family to stay closely knitted. But it's also frustrating for some families who seem to put in their best to get their family close but with little or no result. A question comes to mind, is there a principle or a format to follow? Well, this and more we will be treating on this series of family ties. Firstly, we will treat on a very vital aspect as it relates to the bound between father and daughter /mother and son. We will all agree that in most families, daughters seem to be closer to their fathers than son and mothers to their sons. Why is that? Is there a natural magnetic force between those family members or is there a conscious effort to bound? Will the impact made be more effective if the bound between father and daughter/mother and son is strengthened? From my family,...