Steps to being an amazing in-law

The word in-law is to some a good idea and to others a horrible idea from whoever initiated it. Regardless of what you think about the word ' in-law', my question is, what kind of in-law are you and what kind of in-law would you want to be even as a single or as young man/young woman ? I'm doing a comprehensive book write up about in-laws to show God's original plan for this idea. It is to fuse families, irrespective of background and ethnicity. Now, you have issues with your in-laws? Fine! But what kind are you? For an instance, I have heard wives complain about their mothers in-law which is natural 'cause everybody can't act the same but now that you are a mother, what kind of mother in-laws would you want to be? Loving, peaceful, large hearted,supportive, tolerant or troublesome, picky, self righteous and controlling? Whenever I remember the law of sowing and reaping, it puts me in check as a woman. I don't want to sow what I won't ...