D-TRACTS

The word in-law is to some a good idea and to others a horrible idea from whoever initiated it. Regardless of what you think about the word ' in-law', my question is, what kind of in-law are you and what kind of in-law would you want to be even as a single or as young man/young woman ? I'm doing a comprehensive book write up about in-laws to show God's original plan for this idea. It is to fuse families, irrespective of background and ethnicity. Now, you have issues with your in-laws? Fine! But what kind are you? For an instance, I have heard wives complain about their mothers in-law which is natural 'cause everybody can't act the same but now that you are a mother, what kind of mother in-laws would you want to be? Loving, peaceful, large hearted,supportive, tolerant  or troublesome, picky, self righteous and controlling? Whenever I remember the law of sowing and reaping, it puts me in check as a woman. I don't want to sow what I won't ...

Rape simply put means to forcefully have sexual intercourse with either a male or a female. It is also to over power and utter defeat of a person to have sexual intercourse with them (either male or female) without their consent. Now, from my definition, some may query why I include the male gender in my definition of rape. Rape can be done to either male or female. I have had the opportunity to meet people who were victims of rape in primary, secondary  and university stage. One of them who experienced it while in primary school said he was raped by more than two ladies on his way from the library in his school. They were quite older than him and even though they were caught, the damage had already been done. It was a horrible experience that can never forget no matter how hard h tries to forget. This is why it won't be fair for us to narrow it to just females alone. During sex, the woman must be adequately lubricated for easy penetration but when this is not achieved, it mak...

A wise man once said that a person who won't read has no advantage over one who can't read. This is true. Reading is to the brain what food is to the body.  It energises, refills and ultimately gives an upper hand to the smartest person in the room. It is believed that the typical African don't like books. A man once said that the way to hide anything from an African is to put such in a book and he won't get there. This believe saddens my heart because, reading books enlightens and educates whoever, irrespective of status, age and skin colour. If reading has so much advantages and benefits, why then don't we read? Pastor K. Komaiya once said " reading is to the mind, what feeding is to the body. Just as the body need food for growth and physical performance, the mind need knowledge for mental performance. One of the best ways to develop your mind and mental prowess is through reading. Endeavour to be a voracious reader". These words have embedded in...

I read a touching suicide story just before midnight last night and i was moved to write this piece😔 People who commit suicide see it as a way of escape from all their troubles and frustration. Don't be moved by societal/peer pressure because you have to be your own happiness. Don't allow anyone put you under unnecessary pressure or anger you so much that you lose it. React and let it slide! Most people who take pictures of a  luxurious life fake it. They take pictures in a friend's big office, big car, borrow a bag and clothes just to make you feel less of your self. Well, others don't actually fake it but they want to make you feel they have arrived while you still have a long list of struggles. Such folks have no business being your friends on social media. Remove them if necessary and if what you see puts bad ideas into your head. Do anything to retain your peace while you remain focused and trust the ever faithful God for the benefits that comes with hard w...

Tie and dye is a hand method of producing intricate pattern and designs in textile by tying portions of the fabric or yarn to resist dying the whole area of the fabric. Haven defined tie and dye, it is important to know that this aspect of fashion is a fast growing trend now. A lot of foreigners are interested in this particular fabric as a result of its glamour and uniqueness. Like every patterned and fashioned clothes around the globe, so is Tie and Dye. But Tie and Dye is not just a cloth but a designed culture and style that attract people’s attention anywhere it is seen or found. It has this distinct uniqueness that differentiates it from other fashioned cloth in the fashion world today, especially to the Africans. As culture is a way of life of people so is the art of Tie and Dye.  It is very unlike any other fabric that can be purchased in boutiques. It is affordable and durable too. It’s a cloth that when made into any design signifies something unique, especial...

It's no news that football or soccer is a universally accepted game that brings people irrespective of their ethnicity together. The passion football lovers exhibit at the sight of the game tell me that, whenever passion is present, anything is possible. Back in my university days, my younger sister who loved football(still does till date) could sacrifice her last penny to go watch football. She is a strong Man Utd fan. Many times, she came back really exited about the outcome, other times so sad that everybody around could just tell that something was wrong. That is passion! There were times when she went as far as watching it on credit, with the intention to pay later. She may even look for who will pay for her. Her love for it was so strong that it got to a point where they allowed her watch for free. The owners of the view center had never seen a girl with so much love and passion for football like her. Chelsea and Manchester Utd are two club that I know have this ...

I once saw a very thoughtful and captivating post on twitter. The words though short meant so much to me as I thought about it over and over again while I wondered what was going through the mind of the writer when he wrote it. He said and I quote               " Years ago, I decided that besides her carrying our babies in her womb and                 breastfeeding them, no particular chore should be tagged with my wife's name.                 Not an easy decision though but I eventually adapted.                 So@ home, we practice partnership not slavery.                 This has been working for us". This is coming from a man that understand the value of his wife and someone who is ready to maintain a happy home at all cost. As I read this post, it brought to mind the story of a m...